My last post was a poem about taking time to stop and now as my mum always told me I was contrary I’m going to tell you to move. It’s that time of year with good intentions so make the most of it and spring into action, just make sure your goals are achievable and realistic and you will be guaranteed success.
What it’s really about is balance. Don’t ‘stand and stare’ so long you forget to move and don’t go so fast its all a blur.
What is this life if full of care
We have no time to stand and stare?
No time to stand beneath the boughs
And stare as long as sheep, or cows.
No time to see, when woods we pass,
Where squirrels hide their nuts in grass.
No time to see, in broad daylight,
Streams full of stars, like skies at night.
No time to turn at Beauty’s glance,
And watch her feet, how they can dance.
No time to wait till her mouth can
Enrich that smile her eyes began.
A poor life this, if full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare.
– William Henry Davies
I’m busier than ever and my clients needs are greater than ever and life is just so hard for some people. Christmas can be adding extra pressure for some but to be honest not as much as some people would have you believe. The biggest problem is that people are forgetting about the little things.
Take time to count your blessings, be grateful and recognise the small things that count. Hold the door open for someone, remember to say thank you and smile, appreciate the food that has been cooked for you, be happy that your dog is pleased to see you, run a bubble bath for a loved one, text someone you are thinking of them, the list is endless. Most importantly be thankful for today.
A friend of mine has a very bright child that is doing very well and I commented how proud she must be to which she replied ‘I keep her grounded’. Of course I can see where this has come from and there is no bad intent but it’s so important to believe in our children so we can teach them how to believe in themselves.
We have an epidemic of low self esteem and low self worth in this country and adults pay a fortune in therapy to help remedy this. Invest in your child’s future by believing in them now. It’s so important and a gift you can give them for life.
Science has shown that people who use laughing as a way to combat stress are 40% less likely to suffer from a heart attack or a stroke and on average live four and a half years longer than their moody counterparts.
That is all well and good but the bit I like the most is that laughing simply makes you feel happy and after all it’s quality not quantity that counts, isn’t it?
I can’t tell you when it happened exactly, I think it probably happened in stages but at some point I noticed I was softer, less defensive, not as my sister would say so spikey. I stopped feeling like I had to prove myself and the ‘one up manship’ seemed to disappear.
All I can say is what a relief that was, like taking off a pair of shoes you hadn’t realised were rubbing and causing a blister. Life is much nicer, I expect because I am nicer and I just wanted to share that so you could make your life nicer too.
So the moral of the story is be nicer and life will be nicer too.
Food can be such a battle with ourselves and with our family. It can turn into a real issue of personal taste and even a power struggle and yet it is the most wonderful thing to eat and share food.
Personally I have always loved food and sharing meals but just like many others there have been times of upset and disharmony over who likes and wants what to eat, personal preference and health.
When it gets complicated just remember to make it simple again. Eat Happy, eat good food that is good for you, eat it slowly, enjoy it and share it with love. Ultimately you are only responsible for your own eating, make that a good experience and hopefully it will rub off on others.
Ever wandered why you respond the way you do? Why you get that sudden surge of emotion you feel powerless to control? It’s your monkey at work!
Dr Steve Peters has created a user friendly way of exploring the science of the Limbic system within the brain by describing it as your ‘Chimp brain’. This little monkey is the mischief maker that all your initial emotional responses go through.
Begin to identify when your monkey is at play and you will start to stand a better chance of managing the tearaway and gaining a little human perspective.
If your interested in his book it’s called The Chimp Paradox.
Check out my latest You Tube production on How to Practice Mindfulness. Simply click on the You Tube link on the page.
Mindfulness is very much the hip thing at the moment and if you are wandering just what it’s all about here’s a quick snapshot.
Mindfulness is nothing new it’s been practiced for centuries. In basic terms its about living in the moment, Completely in the moment, being aware of every sense, sight, smell, touch, sound. Kids do this without any thought at all but as we grow older we start rushing and missing the little things in life, stopping to smell a flower or really tasting that sandwich we had for lunch. More comprehensive mindfulness can become meditation and the ability to be completely in tune with our senses and in the moment.
When we are truly in the moment we can be truly be at peace. So give it a go and remember what it’s like to just be for a while.